Frequently Asked Questions

When should I RSVP?

Kindly submit your online RSVP no later than August 13, 2025 so we can save you a seat!

What is the dress code?

Black Tie Optional; we encourage guests to dress to impress!

Is there transportation or parking at the venue?

Yes! Bill Miller’s Castle offers ample on-site parking for guests and is fully handicap- and wheelchair-accessible.

We are also providing shuttles between Bill Miller’s Castle and the Omni New Haven Hotel at the beginning and end of the evening. See the Travel page for full details.

May I bring MY KIDS? a guest?

We adore your little ones, but our celebration will be adults-only.

Your invitation and RSVP form list everyone we’ve reserved a seat for; please RSVP accordingly.

What’s for dinner, and what if I have dietary restrictions?

A seated dinner will be served, with entrée choices of eggplant rollatini, chicken piccata, or filet mignon with stuffed lobster tail. Kindly note your selection - and any allergies or dietary needs - when you RSVP.

A GAY WEDDING? IN 2025?

Our wedding day is a celebration of two men in love. In a world where that right isn't guaranteed, we see this wedding as both a personal milestone and a proud, joyful declaration of our love for one another.

We trust that everyone attending supports and affirms the right of all LGBTQ+ people to love, marry, and build a life of dignity and happiness. If that’s not something you can fully celebrate with us, we respectfully ask that you decline.

CAN WE TAKE PHOTO/VIDEO DURING THE CEREMONY?

We are looking forward to a disconnected ceremony, captured by our brilliant photographers! We’ll share a virtual folder during the big day for guests to upload favorite candids from the evening.

Can I request a song?

Absolutely! We’re building out a playlist of favorite songs for our live band; drop your go-to dance track in the request form below!